Active Activism and Abandoning Autonomy

One has a moral responsibility to disobey unjust laws” – Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

(Please tell me you’ve noticed the alliteration because I worked my butt of to make it make sense because I’m a sad literature student who gets high off of literary techniques. And notice how I keep quoting MLK, Happy (American) Black History Month🖤).

Let’s Say Our Hellos…🤝

Good Afternoon,

I hope you’ve all been doing well. I haven’t posted in like a week and it’s felt like a LIFETIME. But I’m here now, so let’s talk. Let’s discuss… let’s converse 😏 okay okay, I’m done. I promise.

Which Idiots Have Inspired Today’s Post….

So I was on twitter last night and I saw something that headached me well well. *inserts tweet*.

So this lady wakes up at 4:30am to make her husband breakfast and doesn’t sleep until her house is clean and she’s made sure to prepare everyone for the next day. Nowhere does her post say she’s being abused or forced to do these things… So she has chosen to do these things and “TheTodayShow”, because they have today in their name and clearly believe that they are aligned with “the times”, have headlined her routine “back to the 50’s”.

Here’s Why They Are Idiots

First of all, 1950’s? Have these people done any historical research or? By the 1950s, which is post WWII, feminism was well on the way mate.

Also, let me make it very CLEAR that it is problematic to tell someone how to fight for their own rights. Just because we’re both women it doesn’t mean we want the same things and it doesn’t mean that just because my reality does not align with yours, I’m oppressed or living in the past.

This is my issue with the “isms”. Not every gay person wants the same thing. Not every woman wants the same thing. Not every black person wants the same thing. Some of the things that are labelled sexist or homophobic or racist within popular culture stun me because I don’t feel offended by what I’ve seen or heard since they do not reflect what I as an individual am fighting for. That doesn’t make whatever is said and done right but it merely reinforces the point that everyone different and are looking for different sets of validations in life. But “isms” lead people to assume that we’re all campaigning for the same things, that our needs and wants as women or black people are all the same just because we all can be classified into that specific intersection. Let me give you an example. I once had a gay teacher who was against gay marriage. It confused me because I was like if you’re gay how are you not supporting your own. His response? “I don’t want to force living a “normal” life. I’m not the status quo and I want to explore that in the most unconventional way possible”. You can’t tell a gay person that just because you’re also gay they have to feel the same way as you do about gay marriage. That applies to everyone. The world will progress as it chooses to progress but we’re still individuals. There are certain things that we as a global community can outlaw as being completely wrong but everything else is a choice. As long as you’re not offending or hurting anyone – exercise your free will. (Remember hell is real) but again that’s a CHOICE.

By undermining her decision to cook and clean for her husband, the reporters are being antifeminist. The whole point of feminism is choice. Giving women the freedom to dictate their own lifestyles. Yes feminism opened the doors to more women leading independent lifestyles and having better paid jobs and not necessarily being maids in their own homes. But that does not take away from the fact that their are women who still – for themselves and by themselves – CHOOSE to cook and clean all day. And that’s okay. We cannot decide for someone else what their fight is. We cannot impose our social justice crusades on them if that’s not what they want. By doing so, we fail to acknowledge their autonomy and reinforce the idea that we should all be behaving in a specific way which in my opinion is what takes us back to the 1920s when you had no choice but to do certain things.

Telling people how they should exercise their faith or gender because of how you experience those things is crazy. Maddest thing I’ve seen on Twitter is “Christians” telling Christians that they need to stop being so Christian by exercising their Christianity publicly and I-

In Conclusion

In conclusion – mind your damn business and unless someone is actually doing something wrong (not wrong according to you but actually wrong) leave them alone.

We all want different things from life. We all aspire to take different paths in our unique pursuits of happiness. Don’t hinder someone else’s happiness by imposing your idea of an ideal situation on them.

It’s becoming a recurring phrase but please – don’t be an idiot.

*sigh* Rant over. Until the next one, Stay blessed ❤️

4 thoughts on “Active Activism and Abandoning Autonomy

  1. My favourite part of the post was this. “We cannot decide for someone else what their fight is. We cannot impose our social justice crusades on them if that’s not what they want. ” You raised very important points in your post, people should be free to live on their own terms and not adhere to someone else’s standards.

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    1. Thank you for taking the time to read. It honestly bothered me because it creates the illusion that we all want the same things. But surely what we’re fighting against are blanket statements and stereotypes? Thank you for taking the time to read ❤️


      1. You are welcome. Yeah it’s basically like the BAME thing. As if everyone has the same struggles. Your post needs a part 2 all the way to 1000 😂😂😂 so much to unpack


  2. I agree with the overall point. You can’t tell anyone what their fight is because I literally hate when people try to me about myself no matter what the aspect is. It’s a difference between giving advice, an opinion, or even maybe some guidance but someone trying to live THROUGH me is annoying. we all have our own fights & life paths. What we choose to do is our business and our choice. I am an advocate for freedom because I know what’s it’s like to feel imprisoned.


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